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Preparing for your Marriage Service The service of marriage performed in the church is a worship service and deserves the dignity and reverence that any opportunity for worship would require. Because of that we find it advisable to share the following guidelines with you. The use of cameras during a worship service offers unnecessary distractions and takes the focus away from the marriage service. Photos are allowed, but with discretion. Camcorders may be used to record the service as long as the camera is not in view of the public and is not moving around. (Recommended camera locations are in the balcony or from either of the side entrances to the altar area.) If a special portion of the service is desired for still pictures, reenactment can be done prior to or following the actual service. The Bridal Party is responsible to provide the Unity Candle. The Florist should provide any other candles that the Bride and Groom would like to use. Throwing of rice, confetti, or bird seed following the service is not permitted on any part of the church property – inside or out. Smoking is not permitted on any portion of the church property at any time. All music used during the marriage service must lend itself easily to enhancing a worship atmosphere. The church organist can provide direction in the use of music. The Pastor will have final authority in the use of music. The regular church organist is recommended for marriage services, however the couple being married may employ a guest organist with the pastor’s approval. The fee is $75.00 unless otherwise negotiated by the bride and groom and the organist. The church Dining Room may be utilized for a reception if the bride or groom is a member of the congregation. No alcoholic beverages may be served on church property unless it is in conjunction with the sacrament of communion. Usage during a reception is not permitted. The custodial fee is $50.00 and is payable on the night of the rehearsal. For a reception in the Dining Room, add $50.00 to the custodial fee. The custodian, or church opener, will open the church for the florist deliveries. Contact the secretary (633-2263) or custodian Bill Cleary 633-0910) ahead of time with arrangements. ADDED SUGGESTIONS: All wedding party members should be at the church at least 45 minutes before the service. The mother of the bride should always be the last person down the center aisle before the wedding party comes in. Guests who come in after the bride’s mother has entered should quietly be seated from either side aisle. It is recommended that the receiving line take place at the sight of the reception. If done at the church, for every one person in the receiving line, it takes about five minutes to empty the sanctuary. i.e. If you have six people in receiving line it will take about a half hour to get everyone out of the church. Pictures may be taken before the service or following the service. If you want pictures with the pastor, please arrange to have those pictures taken first so that the pastor’s time is not spent waiting around. Please direct all questions you any have to the pastor. The pastor and the congregation desire to have your wedding day be very special and memorable to you. We want to assist in any way we can. PLEASE NOTE: These guidelines are effective September 16, 2004 and thereafter. All wedding arrangements are flexible, but these are offered as a guide. Costs specifically spelled out in this document are binding unless a written exclusion is obtained from the Church council or the individuals involved prior to the date the costs are due. Updated 9/16/04
Church Use Policy Wedding Fees Non-members Members Sanctuary $150 $0 Dining Room $75 $0 Dining Room & Kitchen $100 $0 There shall be one church Opener present during a large function by an outside organization or for a wedding of a non-member. Renters are responsible for set-up and clean-up, otherwise: Custodian Fees: Sanctuary $50.00 $50.00 Dining Room $50.00 $50.00 Church Openers (C.O.) $25.00 $25.00 Organist: $75.00 at least $75.00 at least Use of outside organist must be approved by Church Council Pastor 10% total cost of wedding $0 Please: No alcoholic beverages No smoking anywhere in building No games of chance or 50/50’s No rice or birdseed Additional information: Pastor, Council, or C.O. will arrange to open/close building. Furniture may be moved, but none is to be removed from the building without permission of Council. Pastor and/or council may impose additional conditions or grant special requests on a case-by-case basis. Weddings: Couples must attend six (6) one-hour counseling sessions with Pastor before the wedding date. No charge for sessions, but may be a charge for workbooks. Couples are expected to make a good-faith effort to attend worship at the church of their choice during the pre-marital counseling period. The Pastor’s compensation is not included in the rental fee. There is not charge to active members, non-members fees are in the discretion of the pastor. Updated 9/16/04
Church Facilities Request Date of Event __________________________ Time of Event _______________ Set-Up (Date & Time) ___________________ Duration of Event ____________ Facilities to be Cleared by (Date/Time/Person) ____________________________ Type of Event (check as many as apply) __ Wedding __ Reception __ Bridal/Baby Shower __ Election __ Meeting Only __ Luncheon/Dinner __ Church Function __ Other Function _______________________ ____________________ Facilities Needed __ Sanctuary __ Dining Room __ Kitchen __ Other _______________ Equipment Needed __ Tables #____ __ Chairs #____ __ TV/VCR __ Coffee Pots __ Amplifier & Mic __ Other Custodian Needed __ Set Up Dining Room __ Clean Before Event __ Tear Down Dining Room __ Clean After Event Individual or Group Sponsoring Event __________________________________ Person Requesting Event _____________________________________________ Contact Phone Numbers _____________________________________________ Approved by Council President _______________________Date ______ Approved by Council _______________________________Date ______ Approved by Custodian _____________________________Date ______ If the Custodian is to set up Dining Room, Please sketch desired table arrangement on back. Updated 9/16/04
St. John’s Lutheran Church
Martins Ferry, OH 43935
Pr. Philip K. Van Dam Funeral Wishes Worksheet
Death can be a traumatic and difficult experience for family and friends. Often family and friends must make some very important decisions in a very short period of time following the death of a loved one. Their judgment and decisions can be clouded by feelings of grief, sadness, and anger.
This funeral wishes worksheet will help you think about issues related to your health care, death, and distribution of your possessions. This worksheet will help ensure that your wishes and desires are met. This worksheet will help relieve your family and friends of the stress involved in making important decisions for you after your death.
This worksheet provides a wonderful opportunity for you to talk with your family, friends, and pastor about your wishes for (1) your medical care should you become incapacitated, (2) how you wish your remains to be cared for, (3) your funeral service, (4) how you wish your possessions to be distributed etc…
This worksheet raises issues that are quite personal. It may also spark several questions regarding many subjects. To that end, Pastor Phil is available to address your personal concerns and questions in confidence.
Name_____________________________________ Date____________________________ Address______________________________________________________________________________ City______________________ State_____________________ Zip Code________________________ 1. Do you have a Living Will? _____ yes _____ no
2. Do you have a Medical Power of Attorney? _____ yes _____ no
3. Do your immediate family members (or a close friend) know of your wishes should you no longer be able to
make your decisions for yourself? _____ yes _____ no
Do you wish for life-prolonging intervention on your behalf (life-support/feeding tube)?
_____ yes _____ no
4. Are you an organ donor? _____ yes _____ no
5. Do your immediate family members (or a close friend) know of your wish to be an organ donor?
_____ yes _____ no
6. Do you desire your body to be _____ buried _____ cremated _____ donated for scientific research?
7. Have you completed a “pre-arrangement” agreement with a local funeral home?
8. Do you wish for a viewing to be held? _____ yes _____ no _____leave to family’s discretion
If yes, is the viewing to be held at _____ St. John’s Lutheran Church _____ the funeral home _____ other
Is the viewing to be held _____ the day before the funeral liturgy
_____ immediately before the funeral liturgy
_____ both
_____ at my family’s convenience 9. Do you wish for your body (ashes) to be present during the funeral liturgy? _____ yes _____ no
10. Do you wish for your funeral liturgy to be held at _____ St. John’s Lutheran Church
_____ the funeral home ____ other (Place ______________________)
11. Do you wish for any particular scripture texts to be read at your funeral liturgy? Please list them _______
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12. Do you wish for any particular hymns to be sung? Please list them _______________________________
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13. Do you wish for any particular musical selection to be played? Please list them _____________________
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14. Do you want a full communion service for your funeral? _____ yes _____ no
15. Do you wish for the committal service to be held _____ immediately following the funeral liturgy?
_____ at the convenience of your family?
16. Do you have a will? _____ yes _____ no
Is your will up to date? _____ yes _____ no
Have you remembered your church home in your will? _____ yes _____ no
If you have minor children, does your will stipulate an individual (s) who will assume guardianship of your
children?
17. Please list the names and phone numbers of your family/friends to be contacted upon your death.
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18. Please list any special instructions, wishes, desires you have for your funeral liturgy and the disposition of
your bodily remains. Please attach an additional page, if necessary. ________________________________________
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